love wish

cikiku my love. family dearest. beloved friends;

Happy VALENTINE'S Day.

Wishing you all the happiness in the world.

XOX;

nanayau.

p/s : happy birthday to miss lucyantie and miss haida harun

pak lebai tupai

I don't get people who constantly think that they are better than everyone else.
I don't get people who need to put down others to feel better about themselves.

I don't get men who look down on women.

I don't get boyfriends who look down on their girlfriends.

I don't get it. Why, most of the time, people would do everything they could, giving their very best in getting what they want, but once succeeded, all those efforts would go down the drain..

babai pak lebai tupai (ini adalah pantun dua kerat)

Like how normal it is for a guy/girl, while pursuing a certain love interest, would do practically anything to get even the slightest attention from that certain person. Mission accomplished and bamm, you started acting like some kind of arsehole (whom what you could've been all along), expecting the partner to understand and accept you as who you are.

I'm not talking about expectations here, its those changes. From first class treatment all the way, to being treated like a garbage, after the person has and is already in love with you.

Because you think you have a lifetime to prove how much you love and appreciate that person ey?

Because you think he or she doesn't need to be told everyday, on how special she/he is to you, isn't it?

or because, all those sweet gestures and actions are some sort of scam for ownership, in having that person all to yourself.

or because, you don't really like that person, it's just the thrill of chasing, "test power" bak kata orang orang kampung

Lets not take people for granted, shall we?

No matter how cliche it might sounds, nothing would last forever. Even the person you thought would always be there for you.

The most important thing is to NEVER FEIGN AFFECTIONS. I repeat, NEVER, FEIGN AFFECTIONS.

On the other hand, last two weeks I get to watch the Indonesian movie "BERBAGI SUAMI", (highly recommended!!) during a charity premiere, in collaboration with SIS and few other NGO's. They came out with the slogan "satu isteri, satu suami". Extremists (esp guys) seemed to be taking it the wrong way.

I've been having pretty much the same 'interpretation' towards the issue of polygamy. Though I don't really agree with the way they were saying it, the slogan, I do agree with the idea and the concept, and the good intention behind it.

From what I see around me, nothing good has ever come out of polygamy. My life is being surrounded by bad examples of it, none of the good ones. Kids turn out bitter, wives being unfairly treated ; only the husbands get to enjoy the life of multiple partners, only for a short while before the issues get way out of hand, sekaligus memeningkan kepala otak.

Bukan nak mengharamkan apa yang halal. Cuma cubalah kita untuk tidak bersikap taklid dalam melaksanakan sesuatu hukum atau sunnah atau cara hidup. Sebelum melakukan sesuatu, mestilah cukup ilmu di dada.

Mereka kata, "Untuk mengelakkan maksiat". Bullshit. Perkahwinan itu adalah untuk mengelakkan maksiat, memuaskan nafsu, bukan perkahwinan kali kedua. Itu gatal namanya.

"Isteri adalah anugerah, bukan untuk dimiliki", kan dilot kan, kan, kan?

Kesian agama Islam. Often misinformed and misused by ignorant believers, giving It the bad reputation, scaring those non-believers. The good intention of polygamy which was to help women in the first place, is now manipulated by guys as the ultimate excuse to own even more pussy(s). Especially here where the assimilation of religion and tradition is way beyond imagination.

That's why the virginity of the woman is important, not the guy's.

That's why whether the woman can cook or not is important, not whether the guy knows how to read the after-prayer-doa.

Ya Allah, kesian sungguh wanita wanita di Malaysia.

"sesungguhnya berjayalah orang-orang yang beriman.
iaitu mereka yang kusyuk dalam sembahyangnya.
dan mereka yang menjauhkan diri daripada perbuatan dan perkataan yang sia-sia.
dan mereka yang berusaha membersihkan hartanya (dengan menunaikan zakat harta itu).
dan mereka yang menjaga kehormatannya : kecuali kepada isteri atau hamba sahayanya"

good day

shower

"Why, you wanna tell me how to live my life?
Who, are you to tell me if it's black or white?

Ohhh, if there's one thing I hang onto,
It gets me through the night.
I aint gonna do what I don't want to,
Im gonna live my life.
Shining like a diamond,
rolling with the dice,
Standing on the ledge,
show the wind how to fly.
When the world gets in my face,
I say, Have A Nice Day.

Take a look around you,
look its what he sees.
We're living in a broken home
of hopes and dreams,
Let me be the first
to shake a helping hand.
Everybody,
pray enough to take a stand,
I knocked on every door,
on every dead end street,
Looking for forgiveness,
what's left to believe?

When The world keeps trying,
to drag me down,
Ive gotta raise my hands,
gonna stand my ground.
Well I say,
Have A Nice Day.. "

One great piece of "life mantra" ,

from one of my favorite 40-something..

don't you think so?

possession

volleyball & basketball session with team India

wahlauweeyyyyyy, sepurnama lebih tiada coretan di sini, waduh waduh. khas untuk nadea yang dah suruh update, so here goes..

I'm supposed to be going to kuala kangsar at 4am but hey, i'm still here!!

Just thought of sharing, as sharing is caring is sharing, I had such a great Ramadhan & Syawal.

I should have done more religion-wise though (terawikh, tadarus, etc), sigh.

More than anything else, those months of blessings have taught me to be more grateful, of what I already have in life.

Highlights

1) Ramadhan : I burnt a hole in shashu's headgear, after a great berbuka puasa session with three of four Moffatess and partners, the friend in love and the ever composed, matured and somehow assuasive, lawyer friend.

2) Syawal : I get to see and catch up with 40 out of 48 cousins of mine. Enough said.

Back to my nonsensicle ramblings on life (macam bagus, haha).

Can you live without a life partner? Some just can't, especially if you've tasted the beauty of being in love and having someone all to yourself. There's always a price to be paid, to gain such happiness - some might say.

Yes, life without sharing is not a life afterall. Then again, it depends on you yourself, on how you want to share it, or whom you want to share it with.

Another downfall to this life parter thingy is that at certain level of the relationship, we tend to forget that the life partner is indeed, just another unique human being, with mind of its own.

He or she is not a possession that can be molded or instructed as we desire, to cater and bend with our own needs and interests.

She needs the space. He needs the time. We are not entering the couple-dom to become the ultimate twins. Its about loving the differences, and grow, and keeping each other happy.

Cheer up, and count your blessings.

"We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give". Churchill.

Cheers!!


simply Red - Everybody hurts

When the day is long and the night, the night is yours alone.
When you’re sure you’ve had enough of this life, well hang on.
Don’t let yourself go, everybody cries

and everybody hurts sometimes.

Sometimes everything is wrong.
Now it’s time to sing along.
When your day is night alone, hold on, hold on.
If you feel like letting go, hold on.
When you think you’ve had too much of this life, well hang on.

Everybody hurts.

Take comfort in your friends.
Everybody hurts.
Don’t throw your hand. oh, no.
If you feel like you’re alone,
no, no, no, you are not alone.

If you’re on your own in this life, the days and nights are long.
When you think you’ve had too much of this life to hang on.

Well, everybody hurts sometimes,everybody cries.
Everybody hurts sometimes.
And everybody hurts sometimes.
So, hold on, hold on.
Everybody hurts. You are not alone.

in-betweens

"saya kenyang"

Picture above is the epitome of normal, post breaking-a-fast condition.

The in-betweens :

You go clubbing, wear sexy clothes, but never missed the 5-times a day prayer.

You wear tudung with short sleeves.

You are metrosexual but love getting all dirty doing adventure racings and mountain climbing.

You wear tudung and you are in a band.

You are having sex before marriage but you don't eat pork.

You are wearing tudung but you love performing on stage.

You aren't fasting, you don't pray, but you got all boiled up by the murtad cases

You are wearing tudung but you smoke.

It's like NESLO, not a MILO, neither a NESCAFE. No wait, it's both MILO and NESCAFE.

Some people look at it as a confusion. I look at it as personal preferences.

Some like only MILO, some prefer the original taste of NESCAFE, no add-ons.

Some look at it as the perfect combination, like, being moderate, wasatiah.

People tend to chastise these in-betweens.

Like they are good, but never good enough.

Contoh mudah : Saya tidak hebat berbahasa Melayu tetapi bahasa Inggeris saya juga tidak sehebat mana, apatah lagi bahasa Arab saya. Jika saya hebat, masih ada yang lebih hebat, seperti juga ada yang lebih teruk. Oleh itu, apakah yang harus saya rasa? Hebat, atau sebaliknya? Selain itu, adakah saya patut dikecam?!

Contoh lebih mudah : Saya solat tak tinggal. Saya baca Quran setiap hari, tetapi saya suka tengok perempuan seksi dan kurang gemar perempuan bertudung. Adakah saya jahat atau baik, jahil atau alim?!

In the end, it's about doing the right thing, is it?!

Right or wrong, who are we to judge. Right or wrong takes a lifetime of learning.

Nevertheless, no matter what you do, how you dressed up, it's the way you treat people that counts the most.

At least to me.

You just can't fake kindness.

Study-wise, this semester is by far the suckiest semester, ever.

Had to sit for exams on freaking Sundays, had the second shittiest lecturer teaching one of the easiest core subjects making it being one of the hardest to score, having exams delayed or cancelled only few minutes before the starting time and to top it all, final exams will be right after the eid mubarak's holiday.

Fuckadoodadeyyy.

Plus, like zerr, I just got ripped off for being a helluve stupid consumer. Unlike her rm10, it's my freaking rm25. PASAR MALAM PULAK TU, BOLEH TAKKKKK!?!!

Nota tambahan:

Kadang-kadang perempuan hanya ingin dipujuk.

Kadang-kadang perempuan hanya ingin diberi bunga.

Kadang-kadang perempuan hanya inginkan perhatian.

Kadang-kadang sahaja tapi, bukan banyak-banyak.

"Rilek ah".

"Lek lek pertama komplek la.. "

(adaptasi daripada filem REMP-IT)

I'm quoting REMP-IT, oh wow!!

Happy fasting, what's left of it.