Seniors

There was a topic on radio on who's responsibility it is to take care of the senior citizens; the government, the children, or the seniors themselves. Here in Asian especially in Malaysia, it is frown upon to even think of sending your parents to a nursery or the old folk's home.

Imho, naturally every kids would want to take care of their parents. It is in every kid's heart the willingness to provide and care for their parents when they are old enough, should they have the means and capacities to do so. It is natural for parents too, not to burden the kids with such responsibility, unless unintentionally.

It is the same as the way parents took care of their children when they were young. Remember when we were kids, some were sent to nurseries and daycare centres while the parents went to work. Some stayed with their grandparents, and some got maid hired to keep an eye on them at home. In unfortunate cases where the kids were sick or needed special assistance and attention to live by, they were sent and 'kept' in hospital or special institution where specialist and experts could help with them getting better.

Now the cycle is reversed, it's unfair to judge those sending their parents to old folk's home as bad children. Dumping them to any homes or hospitals and totally ignoring them, leaving everything in the hand of the caretaker, don't bother to go and visit; now THAT's negligence. Otherwise in cases where the parents are incapable in taking care of themselves and the kids can't afford to quit working to look after the parents 24/7, it should be OK for them to be sent to sort of a daycare centre while the kids go to work. You don't have to if you can afford to find a nurse to take care of them at home.

As we don't judge parents who sent their kids to daycare centres, it is unfair to judge kids who send their parents to good quality old folk's homes - that's what I think. The regulators can help by providing more flexibility and benefits to kids such as better, qualified centres, special leave from work to take care of parents, subsidies and others. Awareness on better retirement plan should be instilled too as well as better lifestyle in terms of maintaining a good health and a sound mind. Also one of the caller on radio mentioned on the importance of "siblings' meeting", which I totally agree with.

Family is everything. We love them, we want the best for them. We hope and pray for their happiness, always, herein and hereafter, insyaAllah

Man *sigh

Out of focus

Status update: My life is a mess.

As messy and dirty as the state of my boots

And my car with the missing plate number

Distracted.

Nothing gets done.

Too many productivity killers.

Need to focus.

The flesh is willing,

but the spirit is weak.

Good night. 

Late Uncle

Suatu hari di hari raya..

"Ayah Nyah awak tu baik sangat, Mak Nyah rindu sangat dia, rasa macam semalam je, tapi dah tiga tahun dah..

 

Orang kampung selalu cakap, Ayah Nyah tu baik, sentiasa tolong azan kat masjid, tolong kalau ada kenduri, tak pernah berkira nak pinjamkan van ke amek pisang ke apa ke.. Insya Allah, Ayah Nyah bahagia di sana.. 

 

Bila Mak Nyah demam, sakit sikit, tak larat nak masak, Ayah Nyah masakkan siap hantar kat katil. Bila Mak Nyah penat, Ayah Nyah yang masakkan, dia faham, tak pernah paksa atau merungut..

 

Bila jalan-jalan dengan anak-anak, mana-mana, mesti belikan makanan “Haaa ni Mak korang suka makan”

 

Bila tak kerja, lepas hantar anak-anak pergi sekolah, kadang-kadang “Pah, jom pergi keluar makan”, terus pergi dating berdua pergi makan, jalan-jalan dekat-dekat ke jauh-jauh sikit ke..

 

Nak tinggi suara, memang tak pernah. Dia tau Mak Nyah macam mana, tak penah marah Mak Nyah depan orang, tak pernah tegur kasar-kasar, sentiasa backing Mak Nyah depan orang lain.. Berlembut sangat dengan Mak Nyah, dengan anak-anak.

 

Anak-anak semua sayang sangat kat dia, dalam seminggu tu at least sekali la, mesti sebut Abah diorg. Rindu sangat-sangat..

 

Dah pernah dapat suami yang baik camtu, macam mana la nak terbukak hati lagi nak terima orang lain yang mengorat2 ni..

 

Mak Nyah redha, tapi memang sampai sekarang rindu lagi, tak terbukak pintu hati lagi... "

*kesat air mata

 

Al Fatihah Ayah Nyah. Semoga kita semua mendapat jodoh yang baik seperti beliau insya Allah 

On your side

Going to work this morning, I found myself sighing at this T-junction as traffic was stalled - I wasn't expecting that as it was still way to early for going-to-work traffic jam. As I drove onwards, I saw a lady sprawling by the road side. Apparently there was an accident, to my relief she looked pretty much alive. From the look of it, I reckoned that she fell of this motorcycle she was riding to work with her husband. That was when I suddenly realised why people would want to get a life partner or get married.
 
How did it come to that? As I sat there in my car watching the patrol officer clearing up the area, the (assumed) husband, bleeding profusely from the mouth, kept attending to his (assumed) wife, consoling her, cleaning up here face with a piece of cloth, hugging and covering her from the commotion building up around them. She was clearly upset and in pain, and just having someone by her side in that time of need, was already something I would've greatly appreciate myself.

<3

In a perfect world, marriage is having the assurance that someone will always be there for you. Even for instance if that lady was not with her husband during that accident, the husband would be the first one being notified, the first person who'd rushed to the hospital to see her and stay with her 'till she gets better.
I didn't get that before. I don't really know how that scenario led me to that understanding but yes it made me understand on one of the many reasons of why people would want to have a life partner.

We have parents, bestfriends, good friends, good samaritans and all the good people in the world that would lend a hand but would they really be there in your time of need? Maybe, but would they always be on your side? Only when it's convenient to them.

Having a life partner is sort of having all that, someone that is yours truly, that would ALWAYS be on your side. He would make time for you, would commit, would get angry and be mad at you for doing stupid things but would would never leave you or give up on you (unless you've crossed the line of course)

A bit too far fetched? Maybe.

I just hope that lady is OK. Stay safe on the road everyone!