sinking sand
" I mean, kalau aku, kalau hati aku kata Yes, aku yakin je. Stress sume tolak tepi. Menda2 camni, melibatkan hati dan perasaan.. kau ikut instinct kau je"
" Heh. Ikut hati mati. Zaman dulu maybe boleh pakai. Zaman sekarang semua orang dah pandai. Gaduh sikit, cabut. Bukannya kau depend on dia and dia depend dengan kau, masing-masing boleh hidup sendiri apa sebenarnya"
"Cabut tu patutnya last resort kan?"
"Last resort? Hehe. Takyahla elaborate lebih. Sebab takde rasa dependent, itu akan jadi first choice"
Its normal to have cold feet prior to your own wedding
Its normal to almost give up on the massive preparation required for your very own wedding
Its normal to doubt your decision, the choices you made, just days before your own wedding.
Or so people say.
Everyone should ask themselves before jumping into the bandwagon - do they really want to spend and share the rest of their lives with the one they are marrying, or do they just want a husband to take care of them, or a wife to clean up, cook and do everything for them?
Are you in love with the person, or in love with love and the idea of being in a relationship, and being married?
Marriage is like making love, some perceive it as just an outlet that can be done with anyone or anything for that matter. I believe in doing it with that special someone, with love being the main essence of the unification, not for any other reason - sebab nak tolong, sebab kesian, sebab takde no other choice, sebab semua org kene kahwin.
I'm not a cynic. I am just a firm believer of love. Why do you love that person in the first place, why your heart chose to love that person instead of others?
Entahlah
2 comments:
But Nana, what if you have truly loved once (and still do) but to no avail, and your heart feels that you just CANNOT love again, not like that. So does that mean u should never get married? Or can't you just COMPROMISE so that you will not have to spend the rest of your life alone? Bcz let's get realistic, no man wants to be with a woman who's in her 30's, unless he has no other choice. So shouldn't she SETTLE now, before it's too late. What is LOVE anyway. Come today, gone tomorrow.
i sensed lots of bitterness there dear aliza, aiceh. mana hilangnye alizakuh yg jiwang ituu?!! :p.
up to you, u can if u want to, compromise and get married, depends on what u meant by compromise in the first place. kalau kau sndri, nak ke jd the one who he settled for, shld the table is turned. tak kan? shld U ever settled for less? i know u wont. its not the rest of ur life yet, just not now.
maybe in ur case, u shld open up ur heart once again, to love. HE has better plan 4u - "DIA amek sebab DIA nak bagi yg lebih baik" or so ppl say. there are good men out there, give them a chance.
im so not the right person to advise on this, haha
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